RED FLAG BEHAVIORS FOR CHILD SEXUAL VICTIMIZATION

Do you know an adult or older child who exhibits one or more of these RED FLAG BEHAVIORS for child sexual victimization?

  • Doesn’t seem to understand what’s acceptable when it comes to personal space.

  • Makes others uncomfortable by ignoring social, emotional or physical boundaries or limits.

  • Refuses to let a child set any of his or her own limits regarding boundaries or touch. Uses teasing or belittling language to keep a child from setting a limit.

  • Insists on hugging, touching, kissing, tickling, wrestling with or holding a child whether or not the child wants this physical contact or attention.

  • Frequently walks in on children/teens in the bathroom.

  • Turns to a child for emotional or physical comfort by sharing personal or private information or activities, normally shared with adults.

  • Has secret interactions with teens or children (e.g., games, sharing drugs, alcohol, or sexual material) or spends excessive time emailing, text messaging, writing to, or calling children or youth.

  • Insists on or manages to frequently spend uninterrupted time alone with a child.

  • Misses or ignores social cues about others’ personal or sexual limits and boundaries.

  • Often has a “special” child friend, maybe a different one from year to year.

  • Spends most of his/her spare time with children and shows little interest in spending time with someone their own age.

  • Encourages silence and secrets in children.

  • Seems “too good to be true,” i.e., frequently baby sits different children for free; takes children on special outings alone; buys children gifts or gives them money for no apparent reason.

  • Allows children or teens to consistently get away with inappropriate behaviors.

  • Is overly interested in the sexuality of children or teens (e.g., talks repeatedly about the child’s developing body or interferes with normal teen dating).

  • Frequently points out sexual images or tells dirty or suggestive jokes with children present.

  • Exposes a child to adult sexual interactions or images without apparent concern.

  • Links sexuality and aggression in language or behavior, e.g., sexualized threats or insults, like “whore” or “slut”.

  • Makes fun of children’s body parts, describes children with sexual words like “stud” or “sexy” or talks about the sexual activities of children or teens.

  • Masturbates so often that it gets in the way of important day-to-day activities.

  • Has an interest in sexual fantasies involving children and seems unclear about what’s appropriate with children.

  • Looks at child pornography or downloads/views internet pornography and is not willing to show whether children are involved.

  • Asks adult partners to dress or act like a child or teen during sexual activity.

  • Minimizes hurtful or harmful behaviors when confronted; denies harmfulness of actions or words despite a clear negative impact.

Source: The Clemente Report pp. 70-71